Have you ever had a moment when you realize your kids are learning things, without you even realizing it?
This happened quite a while back at Christmas.
We had a busy day trying to get the kids out for school, catching buses and drop-offs. And, I had an early breakfast meeting, only to come home and realize everyone was still sleeping and we are now late.
And by late, I mean late.
It’s at this time that my son, Hudson, starts to ask about his allowance. About how much he has, how much he gets and if he can have it all now.
Like, right now. Like, “I need cash, dad.”
I respond like any parent would with a “No, go get your stuff on” and proceed to run around like madman trying to get things ready.
We make it out and I give Hudson $5 reluctantly, because apparently it’s a day when they can buy presents at school that they will wrap for them. And, he wants to spend his allowance money (hence the “How much do you owe me dad?” conversation).
That’s all I thought of it, until I picked up Hudson after school and he walks in with a wrapped gift. And, he’s proud, excited and shows me what he’s bought. On it, in big bold letters, it says, “Asher, Merry Christmas, from Hudson.”
He used his allowance money to buy a gift for his brother. His brother he often wrestles. His brother he often fights with like any child. His brother whom he loves and showed it with a gift.
Ever feel like your kids are teaching you?
Here I was all mad about giving him his allowance, and all he wanted to do was buy something for his brother. Because, as he told me, “That’s what we do at Christmas.” (He also told me that if I’d given him more of his allowance, he could have bought Eden something too.)
So, I write all this to remind you that sometimes your kids are picking up more than you realize.
And I think we need to pay attention to them and what they are learning, because truth be told they learn faster than we often do. I should have learned to trust my son 6 months ago, but I didn’t. And this last week the exact same dynamic played out again. He asked for money, needing his allowance, this time though it was so he could buy food for kids in Africa.
So I write all this because, while you think they are not listening at all, as you are just trying to get them to school, hockey or piano, they are paying attention.
And, sometimes, if you are paying attention, they have something to teach you.
Like how my first response when Hudson asks for his allowance should be “what for” 🙂